As I read Sean Covey’s “The 7 habits of Highly Effective Teens” I noticed my self-perception was terrible, I thought that my memory wasn't good enough. But still didn't put effort on changing, I didn't believe in it. I was talking with Mr.Bon (My Innovation Academy Teacher) about the end of the year TED talk and he started giving recommendations on my structure. After some time I remembered that I have somewhat of a “short term memory”, thus I stopped him and asked if he could instead of tell me write it in the white board. As a result, Mr. Bonnici stopped me and asked what was I doing, I told him about my terrible memory, how I thought it would be easier. We had a long conversation on how, apart of avoiding challenges, I didn't believe in myself, believe I could concentrate and memorize the important things without looking for another way out. This was harming my final work, my aspirations and dreams. “I wasn't working to my full potential”.
In elementary school, I was told that I was a “visual learner” so I got stuck in that specific mindset. I totally stopped trying to get better at the other types of learning like: auditory, kinesthetic, solitary, logical, and social learning. I didn't believe, either of the former options challenged me and my memory likewise. I was always criticizing Math and Spanish because most of the tasks we worked on were about memorizing formulas or words. But now, although I might be little bit late, I recognize that doing those exercises would’ve helped my memory “problem” and subsequently what I thought about myself.
As said by Sean Covey in “The 7 habits of Highly Effective Teens” There are some main paradigms that hunt you down or set you back, paradigms are a close minded way of looking at people and actions. For example: “No one in my family has ever gone to college. I’d be crazy to think I could make it.” Another example is: “It’s no use. My step dad and I will never get along. We’re just too different.” Also “My teacher is out to get me.” Or in my case “I will forget everything straight away, so why even try to remember anything.” I've noticed that every time I think I will forget everything, I do. On the other hand when I put my mind into remembering something and actually concentrate, I succeed.
Paradigms are like glasses. When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription. That lens affects how you see everything else. As a result, what you see is what you get. If you believe you are dumb or in my case “my memory isn’t good enough”, or even believe that your little sister is dumb you will look for evidence to support your belief, find it, and she will remain dumb in your eyes. On the other hand, if you believe you’re smart, that belief will get you somewhere. There you will recognize that nothing is impossible, as cheesy as it gets.
In elementary school, I was told that I was a “visual learner” so I got stuck in that specific mindset. I totally stopped trying to get better at the other types of learning like: auditory, kinesthetic, solitary, logical, and social learning. I didn't believe, either of the former options challenged me and my memory likewise. I was always criticizing Math and Spanish because most of the tasks we worked on were about memorizing formulas or words. But now, although I might be little bit late, I recognize that doing those exercises would’ve helped my memory “problem” and subsequently what I thought about myself.
As said by Sean Covey in “The 7 habits of Highly Effective Teens” There are some main paradigms that hunt you down or set you back, paradigms are a close minded way of looking at people and actions. For example: “No one in my family has ever gone to college. I’d be crazy to think I could make it.” Another example is: “It’s no use. My step dad and I will never get along. We’re just too different.” Also “My teacher is out to get me.” Or in my case “I will forget everything straight away, so why even try to remember anything.” I've noticed that every time I think I will forget everything, I do. On the other hand when I put my mind into remembering something and actually concentrate, I succeed.
Paradigms are like glasses. When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription. That lens affects how you see everything else. As a result, what you see is what you get. If you believe you are dumb or in my case “my memory isn’t good enough”, or even believe that your little sister is dumb you will look for evidence to support your belief, find it, and she will remain dumb in your eyes. On the other hand, if you believe you’re smart, that belief will get you somewhere. There you will recognize that nothing is impossible, as cheesy as it gets.